What Investing Actually Looks Like When You Are Not Rich
My coworker Dave told me on a Tuesday in October 2022 that he had made $400 in the stock market that month. Just. sitting there. At his desk. Eating a granola bar.
Casually mentioning that his money made him $400 while he was asleep.And I remember looking at him and then looking at my phone where my banking app was open showing $67 in my checking account and thinking. that is a completely different planet. That is not my planet. My planet is the one where I check my balance at the grocery store self-checkout before scanning my items to make sure the total will not exceed what I have. His planet is the one where money just. grows. While he sleeps.
That was the moment I decided investing was not for people like me. That it was a rich person thing. A Dave thing. A thing for people who already had money not people who were counting whether they could afford both shampoo AND conditioner this week.
I was wrong about that. But it took me six years to figure out how wrong I was. And the amount of money those six years cost me is a number I try not to think about too often because it makes me genuinely sick.
Everything I Thought Investing Was (All of It Wrong)
Okay so I need to explain what the word "investing" meant in my head for most of my twenties because I think a lot of people carry the same image and it is the reason they never start.
When I heard "investing" I pictured Wall Street. Suits. Guys yelling on a trading floor. Complicated charts with red and green lines going up and down. Numbers scrolling across the bottom of a TV screen that meant nothing to me. A world that required an MBA and $50,000 and a financial advisor who wore cufflinks and called you "old sport" or whatever.
That image kept me frozen. For six years. From age 22 to 28 I did not invest a single dollar because I genuinely believed it was not for me. Not my income level. Not my knowledge level. Not my tax bracket. Not my. world.
And here is what makes me angry looking back. Nobody corrected that image. Nobody sat me down and said "hey investing is literally just putting money somewhere it can grow and you can start with $5." Nobody told me that you do not need to know anything about stocks or charts or earnings reports. Nobody told me you can set it up in 15 minutes on your phone while eating cereal and then never think about it again.
Instead what I got was. silence. My parents never invested (or if they did they never mentioned it). My school never taught it. My friends never talked about it except Dave and Dave made it sound like something that happened naturally to people who already had money. Not something you could. build. From almost nothing.
I looked up a study once — after I finally started investing — that said something like 55% of Americans do not own any stocks at all. More than half the country. Not invested in anything. And I remember reading that and feeling two things at once. First: relief. Because that meant I was not uniquely dumb for not investing. More than half the country was in the same boat. Second: anger. Because that meant more than half the country was losing money to inflation every year and nobody was shouting about it the way they shout about avocado toast and coffee habits.
Your savings account is paying you maybe 0.5% interest if you are lucky. Inflation is eating 3 to 4% of your money's value every year. Which means if you have $1,000 sitting in savings it is worth about $960 in real purchasing power by the end of the year. You are losing $40 a year for every $1,000 you "save." Just by doing nothing. Just by sitting there thinking your money is safe when it is quietly getting smaller.
That math made me angrier than anything else I learned in my entire financial education. The system is set up so that NOT investing costs you money. Literally. You lose money by doing nothing. And nobody tells you this when you are 22 and scared and broke and the word "investing" sounds like something that happens in a building you are not allowed to enter.
The Night I Almost Started (But Chickened Out)
November 2023. A Wednesday night. I was lying in bed scrolling through Reddit — which is where most of my financial education apparently comes from because I never learned any of this in school — and I ended up on a thread about investing for beginners.
Someone had posted about how they started investing with $10. Ten dollars. And people in the comments were sharing their stories. "$25 a month for two years and I have $700." "$50 a month since college and I am at $4,000." Small numbers. Real numbers. Not Dave's $400-a-month-while-sleeping numbers. Normal people numbers.
So I downloaded a brokerage app. One of the big free ones. And I got all the way to the "fund your account" screen where it asks how much you want to deposit. And I stared at that screen for probably four full minutes. My thumb hovering over the keyboard. Trying to type a number. Any number.
And then I closed the app. Put my phone face down on my chest. And stared at the ceiling.
Because here is what was going through my head. What if I lose it. What if the market crashes tomorrow. What if I pick the wrong thing. What if I do this wrong and lose everything. What if this is a scam. What if Dave got lucky and most people just lose money. What if what if what if.
The fear was not rational. I know that now. But it was so. loud. It filled my entire brain and there was no room left for the quiet logical voice that was trying to say "you are overthinking this. Just put in $25. If you lose $25 your life will not change. If you don't start your life definitely won't change."
I did not invest that night. I deleted the app the next morning. And I did not try again for three months.
What Actually Got Me to Start (It Was Not a Video or a Book)
February 2024. I was at a coffee shop on a Saturday morning — one of the last expensive coffee shop visits before I started doing free stuff on weekends. And a girl I sort of knew from college was sitting at the next table. We got to talking. Small talk at first. And then somehow money came up.
She mentioned she had been investing since she was 23. Just casually. Like it was a normal thing. And I asked her — kind of embarrassed but genuinely curious — how much she invested per month.
"Fifty dollars."
Fifty. Not five hundred. Not five thousand. Fifty.
And I said "wait. Is that. enough?" Because in my head investing meant big numbers. Thousands of dollars. Not fifty bucks.
She pulled out her phone and showed me her investment account. And the number was just under $5,000. From $50 a month over about four years. She had not picked stocks. She had not timed the market. She had not done anything complicated at all. She had put $50 a month into one thing — she called it an index fund which I pretended to understand at the time but absolutely did not — and the money had. grown. On its own. Slowly. Quietly. While she lived her normal life.
And here is the part that got me. The part that finally broke through the fear. She said: "The first month I put in $50 and it went down to $47. And I almost panicked. But I just left it. And now it is almost $5,000."
$50 that went to $47 that eventually became part of $5,000. That sentence lived in my head for like three days. And on the following Tuesday — February 6th 2024. I remember the date because I have the confirmation email — I opened a brokerage account and invested $25.
Twenty-five dollars. Not fifty. Because I was still scared and $25 felt like. an amount I could afford to watch disappear. Which is genuinely how I thought about it at the time. Not "I am investing $25." More like "I am betting $25 that this is not a scam and if it disappears I will survive."
What I Put the Money Into (And Why I Almost Messed This Up)
Okay so when you open a brokerage account and deposit money the money just sits there. It does not automatically go into stocks or anything. It just sits in the account like cash in a digital wallet. You have to actually buy something with it.
Nobody told me this. I deposited $25 on Tuesday and checked on Wednesday expecting to see some growth or movement or SOMETHING and the number was just. $25. Sitting there. Doing nothing. And I thought the app was broken.
It was not broken. I just had not bought anything yet. The money was uninvested cash. I felt genuinely stupid when I figured this out. Like showing up to a gym and standing in the lobby for an hour wondering why you are not getting stronger.
So then I had to figure out what to buy. And this is where I almost. seriously almost. made the worst mistake.
Because I went to the "trending stocks" section of the app. And I saw company names I recognized. Big famous companies. And my thumb was hovering over one of them — a tech company everyone talks about — ready to put my entire $25 into one single stock of one single company.
And then I remembered something the college girl had said. "I just buy an index fund. It is like buying a tiny piece of every big company at once." And I had nodded like I understood when she said it but I did not understand at all. So that night I Googled "what is an index fund" and spent about 45 minutes reading. SEC official explanation of ETFs and index funds
And when I finally understood what it was I felt this. relief mixed with anger. Relief because it was so much simpler than I thought. Anger because why did nobody explain this to me sooner.
An index fund is just a basket. One thing you can buy that contains tiny pieces of hundreds of companies. You buy the basket. Not individual stocks. So if one company in the basket goes down but most of the others go up you still come out ahead. You are not betting on one horse. You are betting on the entire race having horses that generally run forward. Which. historically. they always have. Over any 20-year period the stock market has gone up. Always. Through wars and recessions and pandemics and every scary headline that has ever existed.
So I put my $25 into an index fund that tracks the 500 biggest companies in America. One purchase. One button. Took about 30 seconds after the 45 minutes of Googling.
If I had put that $25 into the single tech stock I was about to buy. it dropped 12% the following week. My $25 would have become $22. And knowing myself I would have panicked and sold and said "investing is a scam" and never tried again.
Instead my $25 in the index fund went to $24.60 the first week (down 40 cents) and then back to $25.30 the second week and I barely noticed because $25 spread across 500 companies does not swing dramatically in either direction. And that small stability was exactly what my scared brain needed to not hit the sell button.
What the First 6 Months Actually Looked Like
I want to show you real numbers because every investing story on the internet shows the highlight reel. The "I started with $100 and now I have $50,000" version. Nobody shows the boring middle part. The part where the number barely moves. The part where you wonder if this is even doing anything.
Here is my actual account month by month. Starting from February 2024.
Month 1 (February 2024). Invested $25. Account value at end of month: $25.40. I made 40 cents. Genuinely thought about texting someone "I made 40 cents in the stock market" but could not figure out how to make that sound impressive because. it is not impressive. It is 40 cents.
Month 2 (March). Added another $25. Total invested: $50. Account value: $52.10. The market had a good month. My $50 was worth $52. I remember checking and thinking "okay so this is not a scam." Which is a hilariously low bar but that is where I was mentally.
Month 3 (April). Added $50 because I got a little braver. Total invested: $100. Account value: $98.70. Wait. What. It went DOWN? Below what I put in? I checked the app like four times that day thinking there was an error. There was no error. The market had dipped. My $100 was worth $98.70 and I felt a cold wave of "I knew this was a mistake" wash over me.
I almost sold everything that night. Almost. My thumb was on the sell button at about 10pm. I was lying in bed doing the thing where you stare at a number hoping it changes. And then I remembered what the college girl said. "It went down to $47. I almost panicked. But I just left it."
So I left it. Closed the app. Went to sleep. Woke up the next morning and did not check. Or the next day. Forced myself to not open the app for an entire week.
When I checked a week later it was at $103.
The panic. The almost-selling. The sick feeling. All of that over a dip that lasted less than seven days. That was the week I learned the most important lesson about investing: the dips are temporary. The panic is lying to you. The people who lose money are the people who sell during dips. The people who make money are the people who do nothing.
Month 4 (May). Added $75 (I got a small bonus at work and put half toward investing instead of spending it all). Total invested: $175. Account value: $184. Okay. Now we are getting somewhere. Not life-changing somewhere. But somewhere.
Month 5 (June). Added $50. Total invested: $225. Account value: $241. The market was having a good couple months and my account was growing from both my contributions AND the market returns. Compound growth. It was tiny at this stage but I could see it happening. My money was making money. A few dollars. But. my money was making money.
Month 6 (July). Added $50. Total invested: $275. Account value: $298. Almost $300. From $25 six months ago. And $23 of that was growth I did not earn through work. It just. appeared. Because money that is invested grows over time.
$23 in free money in six months does not sound like a lot. And it is not. But here is the thing about investing that nobody explains with small numbers. The growth is not linear. It is exponential. Which means the first year is boring. The second year is slightly less boring. The fifth year is interesting. The tenth year is genuinely exciting. And the twentieth year is where normal people become wealthy.
I did the math once on a compound interest calculator and the number made me sit back in my chair. If I keep putting in just $50 a month — just fifty dollars. The cost of two mediocre restaurant meals — for the next 30 years at the historical average market return. that $50 a month turns into over $65,000. Sixty five thousand dollars. From fifty bucks a month. Because compound interest is an absolute freak of nature when you give it enough time.
And then I did the math on what I missed by waiting six years to start. And that number was roughly $14,000. Fourteen thousand dollars. Gone. Not because I spent it. Because I was too scared to invest it. Fourteen thousand dollars of growth that would have happened while I slept if I had just. started. At 22 instead of 28.
That number genuinely upset me for about a week. Like I am not being dramatic. I sat with it. It sat with me. $14,000 in future money that I can never get back because I spent six years being afraid of something that took 15 minutes to set up.
The Things That Scared Me (And Why They Should Not Have)
"What if the market crashes?"
It will. It absolutely will crash at some point. It crashes regularly actually. That is what markets do. They go up. They crash. They go back up. They crash again. They go back up again. Over and over forever.
The thing nobody told me is that crashes are not the end. They are a discount. When the market drops 20% that means everything is 20% cheaper. Your $50 monthly investment now buys MORE shares than it did before the crash. And when the market recovers — which it has literally every single time in history — those cheap shares are now worth way more than you paid for them.
The only people who lose money in crashes are people who panic and sell at the bottom. If you keep buying through the crash you actually end up ahead of where you would have been without the crash. This sounds backwards but the math checks out. Every single time.
"What if I pick the wrong stock?"
Do not pick stocks. I almost did. Almost put my $25 into a single company. That company dropped 12% the next week. If I had picked individual stocks I would have lost money felt stupid and never tried again. Instead I bought an index fund which is 500 stocks in one purchase and the 12% drop in that one company was invisible because the other 499 companies averaged it out.
Picking individual stocks is not investing. It is gambling with extra steps. Even professional stock pickers — people who do this for a living with teams of researchers and algorithms — fail to beat the index fund most of the time over long periods. If the pros cannot do it consistently then you and I definitely cannot. And we do not need to. The index fund does the work for us.
"I do not have enough money to start."
I started with $25. Twenty. Five. Dollars. You can start with $5 on most platforms. Five dollars. The price of a coffee. The idea that you need thousands of dollars to invest is a lie that the financial industry perpetuated for decades because they used to charge high fees and minimums that made small investments unprofitable for THEM. Not for you. For them. Now most platforms are free with no minimums. The barrier is gone. The only thing stopping you is the belief that it still exists.
"I do not understand how it works."
Neither did I. And honestly I still do not fully understand most of it. I do not know what a P/E ratio is. I could not explain what a bond yield curve means if my life depended on it. I do not watch financial news. I do not read earnings reports. I do not know what "the Fed" does exactly even though everyone seems to have opinions about it.
None of that matters. Because my investing strategy is: put $50 into an index fund every month. Automatically. And do not touch it. That is it. That is the whole thing. You do not need to understand how a car engine works to drive to the grocery store. You do not need to understand market mechanics to put $50 a month into an index fund.
What Investing Actually Looks Like Day to Day
People imagine that investing involves staring at screens and making trades and analyzing charts and feeling stressed.
Here is what my investing life actually looks like day to day.
Nothing.
Literally nothing. The $50 leaves my checking account automatically on the 1st of every month. It goes into my brokerage account. It automatically buys my index fund. I do not press a button. I do not make a decision. I do not look at a chart. I do not think about it.
Once a month — usually on a Sunday morning while drinking coffee — I open the app and look at the number. The number is usually a little higher than last month. Sometimes a little lower. I look at it for about 30 seconds and then close the app and go on with my day.
That is it. That is what investing looks like when you are not rich and not a financial expert and not trying to get rich quick. It looks like. nothing. It looks like a $50 automatic transfer that runs in the background of your life while you do normal human stuff like eat sandwiches and watch Netflix and wonder if you are doing okay financially.
The most boring financial strategy is almost always the most effective one. And the most effective one for normal people is the one that requires the least effort. Because effort is a limited resource and if investing takes effort you will eventually stop doing it.
The Mistake That Almost Cost Me Everything I Built
August 2024. The market dropped about 7% in one week. Some tech companies got hammered. The headlines were. loud. "Market in freefall." "Worst week since 2022." "Is this the start of a recession?"
My account went from about $320 to about $297 in five days. A $23 drop. And I know $23 is nothing in the grand scheme of things. I KNOW that. Logically I know that. But watching money disappear — even $23 — when you grew up without money triggers something deep and primal that logic cannot reach.
I opened the sell screen. Again. Thumb hovering. Again. Heart beating faster than it should over $23. Brain screaming sell sell sell before it gets worse before you lose everything before—
And then I texted my friend. The college girl. "Market is crashing should I sell everything?"
She texted back: "lol no"
Two words. lol no. And then she followed up with: "delete the app for a week. Do not look. It will be fine."
So I deleted the app. Not the account. Just the app from my phone. For ten days. And when I redownloaded it and logged in my account was at $331. Higher than before the "crash."
If I had sold when my thumb was hovering. I would have locked in a $23 loss. Instead I made $11 by doing absolutely nothing for ten days. The difference between panic and patience was $34. On a tiny account. Imagine that difference on $50,000. Or $100,000. Or $500,000.
The lesson: when the market is scary and your brain is screaming at you to sell. delete the app. Walk away. Go outside. Do anything except touch that sell button. The market has recovered from every single crash in its entire history. Every. Single. One. Your job is not to time the market. Your job is to survive your own panic.
Where I Am Now (The Honest Numbers)
It is 2026 as I write this. I started in February 2024 with $25. I now invest $75 a month — I increased from $50 after I paid off a credit card and had more room in my budget.
Total invested so far: approximately $1,800 over about two years.
Current account value: approximately $2,140.
That means the market has added about $340 to my money. $340 that I did not work for. Did not trade for. Did not do anything clever to earn. It just. grew. While I slept. While I ate breakfast. While I worried about other stuff.
$340 is not going to change my life. I know that. But here is what $340 represents. It represents the beginning of something that will change my life if I keep going for 20 or 30 more years. The math says so. $75 a month at 8% average returns for 30 years is about $108,000. Over a hundred thousand dollars. From seventy-five bucks a month.
And if I increase the amount as my income grows — which I plan to — the number gets. genuinely staggering. Not because I am rich. Because compound interest rewards time and consistency more than it rewards large amounts.
$75 a month starting at 28 for 37 years until I am 65 at 8% average returns = about $175,000.
If I had started at 22 with the same $75 a month. that number would be about $310,000. Almost double. The six years of waiting cost me $135,000 in future money.
I think about that number. more than I should probably.
Here Is What Nobody Tells You About Investing When You Are Not Rich
Nobody tells you that the first year is boring. Like painfully boring. You put in $50 and it becomes $51.30 and you think "is this it? This is what everyone talks about? A dollar and thirty cents?" Yes. That is what it looks like at first. The fireworks come later. Much later. Years later. The first year is just planting seeds in dirt and staring at dirt wondering if you did it wrong.
Nobody tells you that checking your account daily will make you crazy. The number goes up and you feel good. Down and you feel bad. Up. Down. Up. Down. Every day. It is emotional torture that provides zero useful information. Check monthly at most. Quarterly is better. Annually is honestly fine.
Nobody tells you that the biggest risk is not losing money in the market. The biggest risk is never starting. Inflation eats about 3 to 4% of your cash savings every year. Over 30 years that means your $10,000 in savings is worth about $4,000 in real purchasing power. You lose more than half. By doing nothing. By being "safe."
Nobody tells you that investing when you are broke feels like a contradiction. "I can barely pay rent and you want me to put money in the stock market?" Yes. Even $10 a month. Because the habit matters more than the amount. Start the habit when you are broke and it becomes automatic. Wait until you are comfortable and you will find a reason to wait longer. Comfort is a moving target.
Nobody tells you how good it feels. Not the money part. The identity part. For six years I was "the person who does not invest." Now I am "the person who invests $75 a month into their future." Same person. Same brain. Same fears. But a different story about who I am and what I am capable of. That story shift was worth more than the $340 in market returns. Honestly.
Here Is What I Messed Up
I checked my account every single day for the first three months. Every. Day. Sometimes twice. It made me anxious and reactive and nearly caused me to sell during a dip. Now I check once a month and even that feels like too often.
I almost picked individual stocks. One click away from putting everything into a single company that dropped 12% the following week. If you learn one thing from this entire post let it be this: do not pick stocks. Buy an index fund. Move on with your life.
I waited six years. I mean I already said this but it bears repeating because it is the most expensive mistake on this list. Six years of "I will start when I have more money" or "I will start when I understand it better" or "I will start next year." I did not need more money. I did not need more knowledge. I needed to put $25 into an account and press buy. Fifteen minutes. That is all it would have taken at age 22. And those 15 minutes would have been worth over $100,000 by retirement.
I tried to learn everything before starting. I watched YouTube videos. Read Reddit threads. Googled terminology. Fell down rabbit holes about different investment strategies and tax advantages and portfolio allocation and I got so overwhelmed that I almost did not start at all. You do not need to understand investing to start investing. You need to buy one index fund. One. And then learn as you go. Starting first. Learning second. That is the order.
Real Talk
Look. I get it. Investing when you are broke and scared and behind on everything feels. insulting almost. Like someone telling you to think about your future when your present is on fire. The rent is due. The credit card is overdue. There is $67 in your account and someone is telling you to put money in the stock market?
Yeah. That felt insulting to me too. For six years it felt insulting.
And then I started with $25 and realized that investing is not about your present. It is about refusing to let your future be as hard as your present. It is about saying "I am struggling now but I am not going to struggle forever and this $25 is the first brick in the wall between me and poverty at 65."
Some months you will not be able to invest anything. Some months rent takes everything and there is nothing left. That is fine. Skip that month. The automatic transfer just does not happen. You do not fail. You pause. There is a difference.
Some months the market will go down and your account will be worth less than what you put in. That will feel terrible. It felt terrible for me. But the market has always recovered. Always. Your job is not to panic. Your job is to wait.
And some months — the quiet boring uneventful months where nothing dramatic happens — your money will grow by a few dollars while you sleep. And those few dollars will grow by a few cents. And those cents will eventually grow into dollars that grow into more dollars. And twenty years from now you will look at the number and not recognize it because it will be so much larger than anything you thought possible when you were lying in bed at midnight with $67 in your checking account wondering if investing was even for people like you.
It is for people like you. It was always for people like you. Nobody told us. So I am telling you now.
Something I Think About at Night
There are two versions of me at 65. The one who started investing at 28 (what actually happened) and the one who could have started at 22 (what should have happened). The gap between those two versions is about $135,000. That gap exists because of fear. Not laziness. Not stupidity. Fear. Six years of a feeling that was trying to protect me but was actually costing me a fortune.
And there is a third version. The one who never started at all. The one who stayed scared forever. Who never put in that first $25 on a Tuesday in February. That version of me at 65 has. nothing. Just social security and whatever cash was left over from decades of money sitting in savings accounts being slowly eaten by inflation.
I am not that version. And if you are reading this at midnight on your phone wondering whether investing is for you. you do not have to be that version either.
Tomorrow morning. Before your coffee is ready. Open a brokerage account on your phone. Deposit $10. Buy one share of an index fund. It will take 15 minutes. Maybe 20 if your wifi is slow.
And then close the app. Go drink your coffee. Go to work. Go live your life. And every month put in whatever you can. Even if it is $10. Even if it is $25. Even if it is $5 on the months where $5 is all you have.
The number will be embarrassingly small for a while. That is fine. It was embarrassingly small for me too. It is embarrassingly small for everyone at first. That is what the beginning looks like. Not impressive. Not exciting. Just. small. And growing. Quietly. In the background. While you figure out the rest of your life.
Anyway. My coffee is cold and I should probably go to sleep. But tell me. have you started investing yet? And if not. what is stopping you? Because I bet it is the same thing that stopped me. And if it is. I hope this helped even a little.
SEC beginner guide to getting started
Questions People Actually Search About This
Can I invest if I am broke?
Yes. I started with $25 when I had $67 in my checking account. Many platforms let you start with $1. The amount does not matter when you are starting. The habit matters. The act of putting any amount of money into an investment account changes your identity from "person who does not invest" to "person who invests." That shift in how you see yourself is worth more than whatever dollar amount you start with.
What should I invest in as a beginner?
One index fund that tracks the whole market or the 500 biggest companies. One. Not ten different things. Not individual stocks. Not crypto. Not whatever your coworker told you about in the break room. One broad index fund. Set up automatic monthly purchases. And then leave it alone for decades. That boring strategy outperforms most professional fund managers over the long term. Let that sink in. Doing almost nothing beats the professionals.
What if the market crashes after I invest?
It will crash eventually. It always does. And then it will recover. It always does that too. Every single market crash in history has been followed by a recovery to new highs. The people who lose money are the ones who sell during the crash. The people who make money are the ones who keep investing through it because they are buying at lower prices. A crash is a sale. Not an emergency. The only emergency would be selling at the bottom. Do not do that.
How much do I need to start investing?
Many platforms now have no minimum at all. You can literally start with $1. I started with $25 because that was what I could afford to "lose" mentally even though investing is not losing. For your first investment pick an amount that would not stress you out if it temporarily went down by 10%. For most people starting out that is somewhere between $10 and $50.
Is investing gambling?
Picking individual stocks based on tips from the internet is closer to gambling than investing. Putting money into a diversified index fund that holds 500 companies is not gambling. It is owning a tiny piece of the economy. The economy grows over time. It has always grown over time. Betting on the economy continuing to grow is not a gamble. It is the safest long-term bet available to regular people. The only risky move is not making it at all.
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